Relationships Change as Fast as People Change their Facebook Profile Picture

So for the second time this week I have logged onto Facebook and suddenly noticed that a friend of mine

has changed their profile picture and there is a NEW MAN in the pic.....

I am not talking about them suddenly getting a boyfriend, I am talking about them going from one man in the profile picture to a new man in the picture.

This sometimes really CONFUSES me....maybe I am simple minded, maybe I am behind times, heck I don't know what I am, but I am confused.

The simple fact is you cannot jump from one relationship to another, it just don't work...you have to have break between men/women.  Your heart has to heal!

What I don't understand the most is how someone who has a beautiful family, can suddenly drop everything and walk out the door for someone else.....In the past year I have watched other families fall apart, people fall apart, and lives be destroyed for "lust".....what is sad I have not just seen this in one or two families, I have seen this in numerous families.

I can assure you men and women the grass may be greener on the other side, but the cow is often fatter, and the shit is deeper....it is as simple as that.

If you marriage or relationship is falling apart, STOP what you are doing, PAUSE your life, and take a look at reality.   Some relationships are not salvageable, I get that, but maybe your marriage or relationship is not able to be saved, but the damage you do while you are ending it can be stopped or lessened.

Personally I feel that couples should be required to go through counseling prior to divorce or custody cases....I know this seem far fetched, but as a mother that shares custody with the the father of her children, I can say it would have been a whole lot easier to do if I did not have to mull through the pain of the what he did, what he didn't do, and oh shit his new girlfriend is in the car with him...I'm not ready for another woman to be influencing my children....

You see parents, in the long run it is not about you, it is about your kids.  It is about bridge or GAP you build between the family.....so the next time you go to change your Facebook profile picture/relationship status, STOP think about who it is going to impact, see if there is any way to slow down the pace, stop the damage, and salvage what bonds you have with your last profile picture/significant other.

~Becky